Posts in Self-Improvement

Types of Goals: How Our Goals and Objectives Dictate Happiness

Contrary to what people tell you, there are infinitely many types of goals in life. Each one is right for only a few individuals. However, these goals can all be put into two broad categories: higher-level goals and lower-level goals. And while higher-level goals might seem better, lower-level goals are, in fact, more important for everyone.

This is because the achievement of “lower-level goals,” when compared to “higher-level goals,” more often result in sustained feelings of happiness and fulfillment. In this article, we’ll discuss the different types of goals, including what they are, where they came from, and how we can set the right ones. The end result should be more joy at lower levels of output.

Different Types of Goals

A goal can be defined as an object of a person’s ambition or effort. It’s the desired result of someone’s intentional action. Of course, a person’s ambition, effort, or action can be limitless, and so too are the types of goals that people set.→ CONTINUE READING

Time Allocation: The Delicate Art of Saying No vs. Saying Yes

Time allocation is the act of dividing your daily, weekly, and monthly hours between different sets of activities. Typically, a person has constraints around their time, such as work, the needs of family and friends, and vacation days. Effective time allocation works around these constraints in order to achieve a person’s ultimate goals and desires.

However, there’s an issue with time in that there are only 24 hours in a day. This forces people to allocate a limited number of hours between personal time, family and friends time, and work time. However, a person’s time allocation often skews more towards work than towards personal time and/or time spent with friends and family.

The result is that people spend a disproportionate amount of time trying to make money. They think that “effective time allocation” means putting more money in the bank. This isn’t true. In fact, greater current and future value can be yielded from other activities.→ CONTINUE READING

The Passion Problem: Does Anyone Even Know What Passion Means?

Everyone says that they want to find their passion. People believe that they’ll be happy if only they could figure out what made them passionate. If you ask anyone about their highest-level goals, they’re sure to mutter something that includes the word “passion” and “quest.” But does anyone even know what passion means?

We have a systemic problem on our hands. We’ve been taught that we should all search for our passions, and yet at the same time, we’re unable to accurately define “passion.” What makes one person feel passionate won’t necessarily make someone else feel the same way. There’s no standard model that tells us what passion is, why it’s important, and how to get it.

And yet still we listen to the self-improvement gurus and “try to find our passion.” The result? An entire generation of people chasing goals that aren’t definable and who place their happiness on a future that’ll never exist.→ CONTINUE READING

Rich vs Wealthy: The Key to Building Wealth The Right Way

Everyone says they want to be rich. However, what people really mean is that they want to be wealthy, they just don’t know it. You see, there’s a difference in being rich vs wealthy, and choosing one over the other matters.

The key to building wealth isn’t a desire to become rich. In fact, it’s quite the opposite. Because while “big ballers” talk about being filthy rich and blowing cash, smart people are quietly building sustainable wealth in the background. This is due to the fact that true wealth is created using three distinct strategies.

Rich vs Wealthy

To help you build wealth the right way, this article discusses the differences between “rich” and “wealthy,” as well as the three things you absolutely must do if you want to become wealthy. If you already understand why it’s important to be wealthy over rich, you can jump right down to the section on the keys to building wealth.→ CONTINUE READING

Stop Being Self-Conscious: Make Your Self-Consciousness a Strength

It’s funny that the act of being self-conscious is considered a bad thing. “Stop being self-conscious,” people say, as if to chastise us for being overly self-aware. “Why am I acting so self-conscious?” we ask ourselves, lamenting the fact we care too much about what other people think.

But couldn’t self-consciousness be a good thing? Rather than thinking that you need to stop being self-conscious, can you turn your self-consciousness into a positive?

If you think about it, no one should be afraid of feeling self-conscious. Self-consciousness is synonymous with self-awareness and should be something we strive to attain, not something we shy away from.

It’s time we flipped the idea of self-consciousness on its head. We need to stop being self-conscious in the modern sense and start being more self-conscious in the traditional sense. If we can, we can make the act of being self-conscious an advantage, rather than the deficiency it’s considered currently.→ CONTINUE READING

Divergent Evolution: How an Evolutionary Advantage Can Change Us All

Divergent evolution is a complicated topic but an important one. Divergent evolution shows us how an evolutionary advantage – or more precisely, a series of random evolutionary advantages – can change the way humans think and live.

Understanding the divergent evolution of our species, including what evolutionary advantages caused the divergence of humans from the great apes, can tell us a lot about ourselves. If done correctly, we can use our understanding to make better and more informed decisions.

For example, most of us know that humans are social creatures. However, if we knew exactly why we’re social, we could maximize our sociability, thereby increasing our baseline level of happiness and decreasing our emotional distress. And that’s just one of a nearly infinite number of examples.

Clearly, understanding your nature – including the nature of the people around you – is itself a huge advantage. If you’re in business, think about your sales abilities if you could understand exactly why people act (and react) the way they do.→ CONTINUE READING

You Are Enough: How to Answer the Question “Am I Good Enough?”

It’s not often that people answer the question of “am I good enough” with a resounding “yes.” In fact, the idea that you are enough is elusive in the minds of more people than I wish were true, myself included.

But think about how life would be if you knew that you were enough. If you didn’t even need to answer the “am I good enough” question because you already know that you were. Good enough, that is.

What a weird world that would be, if everyone believed they were good enough. Tensions would decline, confidence would rise, and people just might be a bit more harmonious. But most important of all, your life would be better.

Let’s take a closer look at how the ideology of knowing you are enough can change your life.

What Does “You Are Enough” Even Mean?

Without getting too clinical, the word “enough” represents an amount needed or required.→ CONTINUE READING

Decision-Making Process: An In-Depth Guide on How to Make Better Decisions

“Decision-making process” is the act of gathering relevant information in order to choose the best decision based on a set of available options. A good decision-making process is a step-by-step approach that allows a person to make consistently better decisions. The result of these better decisions is a life with less stress and more happiness.

Sadly, however, few of us actually have a concrete decision-making process. Instead, we make decisions on a whim and often by the seat of our pants. This can make life increasingly harder for yourself since you’ll often find yourself in situations you didn’t actually want. So, how can we use our decision-making process to make better decisions? The answer lies in the process you use and the information you collect.

What is the Best Decision-Making Process?

The best decision-making process is one that starts with a broad hypothesis and ends with a firm decision. Good decision-making processes help you make better decisions by accurately assessing all the available information.→ CONTINUE READING

Benefits of Meditation: How 5 Minutes Can Change Your Life

This is a syndicated post originally written for The Life OS, an interactive self-development program

If I told you that the benefits of meditation could change your life in 5 minutes, would you do it?

You might say yes, but from my experience, the answer is sadly no.

You see, the daily practice of 5-minute meditation sessions can alter your mind and create an environment of happiness and fulfillment. That’s really all it takes: 5 minutes a day. And you can even cheat on the weekends, confining your meditative practices to the weekdays.

And yet still, when I suggest meditation to someone who’s unhappy or someone who doesn’t have control over their life, the response is almost always “no.”

But why?

Well, for better or for worse, the act of meditation has been psychologically lumped into “woo-woo” practices that have no basis in reality. But what if I told you that there have been over 3,000 peer-reviewed scientific studies on meditation and that the results are consistently astounding?→ CONTINUE READING

Overcome Your Life Obstacles: Ancient Stories Secretly Teach us with the Threshold Guardian

If you’ve ever been alive (which, if you’re reading this, I assume to be true), you’ve faced obstacles. In fact, your life is most likely riddled with obstacles, dead ends, and false starts. But fret not, because part of being alive is the act of facing – and overcoming – life obstacles.

Luckily, overcoming a life obstacle is easy. That’s because the ancient stories we’re all used to (The Illiad, The Odyssey, etc.) have secret meanings and teachings that actually tell us how to overcome our life obstacles.

Pretty cool, huh? And the best part? Many of these ancient stories are thousands of years old, and their lessons are verified and proven.

So, in this article, we’re going to discuss the following:

  • What is a Life Obstacle?
  • What is a Threshold Guardian in Ancient Stories?
  • What Does a Threshold Guardian Represent in Your Life?
  • How Can a Threshold Guardian Help You Overcome Your Life Obstacles?