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How to Quantify the True Success of Your Life

What is a successful life? What gives your life the most fulfillment?

Answering these questions forces you to identify key outcomes and set goals to attain these outcomes. What does your life look like if you’re living it to your fullest?

The answers – as well as the associated outcomes and goals – are different for each of us. However, one thing remains the same for all. Goals need to be S.M.A.R.T. (specific, measurable, achievable, realistic, and time-bound). In essence, a good goal is one that’s quantifiable.

And just like a goal, your current life needs to be equally quantifiable. Through the measurement of your present, you’re able to better understand yourself and where you need to focus your goals. It helps you identify areas of your life that need improvement. This is key. You can’t live your ideal life and set effective goals if you don’t understand how to get better.CONTINUE READING

The Most Effective Tools for Life Automation

Life is made up of component parts. Specifically, your life is comprised of eight specific areas, known to as your “areas of focus.” The eight areas of your life are: relationship, time, financial, career, physical, mental, spiritual, and emotional.

These eight areas are all interconnected. Forget to nurture one and the others will suffer. If you lose focus on your physical health, for example, it harms your mental and emotional well-being. Placing too much attention on the financial area of your life causes your relationships lose value.

Sometimes it feels like we’re juggling eight balls without any hope of catching them all. This is normal. Still, it doesn’t give us an excuse to neglect any one area, which means we have to be smarter about our approach to our lives and its component parts.

Rather than relying on yourself, a life well lived is one that’s automated. People who live fulfilling lives do so in a systematic way.CONTINUE READING

Types of Goals: How Our Goals and Objectives Dictate Happiness

Contrary to what people tell you, there are infinitely many types of goals in life. Each one is right for only a few individuals. However, these goals can all be put into two broad categories: higher-level goals and lower-level goals. And while higher-level goals might seem better, lower-level goals are, in fact, more important for everyone.

This is because the achievement of “lower-level goals,” when compared to “higher-level goals,” more often result in sustained feelings of happiness and fulfillment. In this article, we’ll discuss the different types of goals, including what they are, where they came from, and how we can set the right ones. The end result should be more joy at lower levels of output.

Different Types of Goals

A goal can be defined as an object of a person’s ambition or effort. It’s the desired result of someone’s intentional action. Of course, a person’s ambition, effort, or action can be limitless, and so too are the types of goals that people set.→ CONTINUE READING

Time Allocation: The Delicate Art of Saying No vs. Saying Yes

Time allocation is the act of dividing your daily, weekly, and monthly hours between different sets of activities. Typically, a person has constraints around their time, such as work, the needs of family and friends, and vacation days. Effective time allocation works around these constraints in order to achieve a person’s ultimate goals and desires.

However, there’s an issue with time in that there are only 24 hours in a day. This forces people to allocate a limited number of hours between personal time, family and friends time, and work time. However, a person’s time allocation often skews more towards work than towards personal time and/or time spent with friends and family.

The result is that people spend a disproportionate amount of time trying to make money. They think that “effective time allocation” means putting more money in the bank. This isn’t true. In fact, greater current and future value can be yielded from other activities.→ CONTINUE READING

The Passion Problem: Does Anyone Even Know What Passion Means?

Everyone says that they want to find their passion. People believe that they’ll be happy if only they could figure out what made them passionate. If you ask anyone about their highest-level goals, they’re sure to mutter something that includes the word “passion” and “quest.” But does anyone even know what passion means?

We have a systemic problem on our hands. We’ve been taught that we should all search for our passions, and yet at the same time, we’re unable to accurately define “passion.” What makes one person feel passionate won’t necessarily make someone else feel the same way. There’s no standard model that tells us what passion is, why it’s important, and how to get it.

And yet still we listen to the self-improvement gurus and “try to find our passion.” The result? An entire generation of people chasing goals that aren’t definable and who place their happiness on a future that’ll never exist.→ CONTINUE READING

Rich vs Wealthy: The Key to Building Wealth The Right Way

Everyone says they want to be rich. However, what people really mean is that they want to be wealthy, they just don’t know it. You see, there’s a difference in being rich vs wealthy, and choosing one over the other matters.

The key to building wealth isn’t a desire to become rich. In fact, it’s quite the opposite. Because while “big ballers” talk about being filthy rich and blowing cash, smart people are quietly building sustainable wealth in the background. This is due to the fact that true wealth is created using three distinct strategies.

Rich vs Wealthy

To help you build wealth the right way, this article discusses the differences between “rich” and “wealthy,” as well as the three things you absolutely must do if you want to become wealthy. If you already understand why it’s important to be wealthy over rich, you can jump right down to the section on the keys to building wealth.→ CONTINUE READING

Stop Being Self-Conscious: Make Your Self-Consciousness a Strength

It’s funny that the act of being self-conscious is considered a bad thing. “Stop being self-conscious,” people say, as if to chastise us for being overly self-aware. “Why am I acting so self-conscious?” we ask ourselves, lamenting the fact we care too much about what other people think.

But couldn’t self-consciousness be a good thing? Rather than thinking that you need to stop being self-conscious, can you turn your self-consciousness into a positive?

If you think about it, no one should be afraid of feeling self-conscious. Self-consciousness is synonymous with self-awareness and should be something we strive to attain, not something we shy away from.

It’s time we flipped the idea of self-consciousness on its head. We need to stop being self-conscious in the modern sense and start being more self-conscious in the traditional sense. If we can, we can make the act of being self-conscious an advantage, rather than the deficiency it’s considered currently.→ CONTINUE READING

Divergent Evolution: How an Evolutionary Advantage Can Change Us All

Divergent evolution is a complicated topic but an important one. Divergent evolution shows us how an evolutionary advantage – or more precisely, a series of random evolutionary advantages – can change the way humans think and live.

Understanding the divergent evolution of our species, including what evolutionary advantages caused the divergence of humans from the great apes, can tell us a lot about ourselves. If done correctly, we can use our understanding to make better and more informed decisions.

For example, most of us know that humans are social creatures. However, if we knew exactly why we’re social, we could maximize our sociability, thereby increasing our baseline level of happiness and decreasing our emotional distress. And that’s just one of a nearly infinite number of examples.

Clearly, understanding your nature – including the nature of the people around you – is itself a huge advantage. If you’re in business, think about your sales abilities if you could understand exactly why people act (and react) the way they do.→ CONTINUE READING

You Are Enough: How to Answer the Question “Am I Good Enough?”

It’s not often that people answer the question of “am I good enough” with a resounding “yes.” In fact, the idea that you are enough is elusive in the minds of more people than I wish were true, myself included.

But think about how life would be if you knew that you were enough. If you didn’t even need to answer the “am I good enough” question because you already know that you were. Good enough, that is.

What a weird world that would be, if everyone believed they were good enough. Tensions would decline, confidence would rise, and people just might be a bit more harmonious. But most important of all, your life would be better.

Let’s take a closer look at how the ideology of knowing you are enough can change your life.

What Does “You Are Enough” Even Mean?

Without getting too clinical, the word “enough” represents an amount needed or required.→ CONTINUE READING

Decision-Making Process: An In-Depth Guide on How to Make Better Decisions

“Decision-making process” is the act of gathering relevant information in order to choose the best decision based on a set of available options. A good decision-making process is a step-by-step approach that allows a person to make consistently better decisions. The result of these better decisions is a life with less stress and more happiness.

Sadly, however, few of us actually have a concrete decision-making process. Instead, we make decisions on a whim and often by the seat of our pants. This can make life increasingly harder for yourself since you’ll often find yourself in situations you didn’t actually want. So, how can we use our decision-making process to make better decisions? The answer lies in the process you use and the information you collect.

What is the Best Decision-Making Process?

The best decision-making process is one that starts with a broad hypothesis and ends with a firm decision. Good decision-making processes help you make better decisions by accurately assessing all the available information.→ CONTINUE READING