Posts tagged happiness

The Passion Problem: Does Anyone Even Know What Passion Means?

Everyone says that they want to find their passion. People believe that they’ll be happy if only they could figure out what made them passionate. If you ask anyone about their highest-level goals, they’re sure to mutter something that includes the word “passion” and “quest.” But does anyone even know what passion means?

We have a systemic problem on our hands. We’ve been taught that we should all search for our passions, and yet at the same time, we’re unable to accurately define “passion.” What makes one person feel passionate won’t necessarily make someone else feel the same way. There’s no standard model that tells us what passion is, why it’s important, and how to get it.

And yet still we listen to the self-improvement gurus and “try to find our passion.” The result? An entire generation of people chasing goals that aren’t definable and who place their happiness on a future that’ll never exist.→ CONTINUE READING

Decision-Making Process: An In-Depth Guide on How to Make Better Decisions

“Decision-making process” is the act of gathering relevant information in order to choose the best decision based on a set of available options. A good decision-making process is a step-by-step approach that allows a person to make consistently better decisions. The result of these better decisions is a life with less stress and more happiness.

Sadly, however, few of us actually have a concrete decision-making process. Instead, we make decisions on a whim and often by the seat of our pants. This can make life increasingly harder for yourself since you’ll often find yourself in situations you didn’t actually want. So, how can we use our decision-making process to make better decisions? The answer lies in the process you use and the information you collect.

What is the Best Decision-Making Process?

The best decision-making process is one that starts with a broad hypothesis and ends with a firm decision. Good decision-making processes help you make better decisions by accurately assessing all the available information.→ CONTINUE READING

Benefits of Meditation: How 5 Minutes Can Change Your Life

This is a syndicated post originally written for The Life OS, an interactive self-development program

If I told you that the benefits of meditation could change your life in 5 minutes, would you do it?

You might say yes, but from my experience, the answer is sadly no.

You see, the daily practice of 5-minute meditation sessions can alter your mind and create an environment of happiness and fulfillment. That’s really all it takes: 5 minutes a day. And you can even cheat on the weekends, confining your meditative practices to the weekdays.

And yet still, when I suggest meditation to someone who’s unhappy or someone who doesn’t have control over their life, the response is almost always “no.”

But why?

Well, for better or for worse, the act of meditation has been psychologically lumped into “woo-woo” practices that have no basis in reality. But what if I told you that there have been over 3,000 peer-reviewed scientific studies on meditation and that the results are consistently astounding?→ CONTINUE READING

How to Find a Job You Love: A Step-by-Step Guide on Finding Your Passion

One of the most important questions in life is that of “how to find a job you love?” Unfortunately, many of us never even pose this inquiry, let alone answer it and actually find a job we enjoy. Instead, we graduate with a practical major and begin working in a practical career, all without ever wondering what we actually want to do with their lives.

This, of course, ends up hurting us more than we think. Each day, month, and year we spend working on a job we’re not in love with takes us further and further away from a career we might actually enjoy. Because while you’re racking up experience in an industry you hate, others are racking up experience in an industry you’d love.

And so after a few years, you tell yourself that you could never start or switch careers, because “you don’t have the experience.” Well, I’m here to tell you that you’re wrong.→ CONTINUE READING

You’re Always Going to Judge Yourself so You Might as Well Do it Right

Being judgemental is a fact of life. We’re always judging other people, and quite frankly it’s making us all worse off.

That person in line at the grocery store, you know, the one with acrylic nails, yeah, she has terrible tastes. The driver who cut you off on the freeway, he must be a terrible driver. That friend who complains about her boyfriend, she must have a shitty home life; my life is most definitely not like hers.

But what’s worse than passing judgment on others? Who is the last person you should be judging? Well, you of course.

We judge ourselves harder than anyone else in the world. It’s us who has the acrylic nails, the terrible driving record, and the shitty home life. It’s us who don’t stack up against others, and it’s us doing the judging. Effectively, it’s us who determines that we aren’t worthy and that we should curl up into a little ball and die.→ CONTINUE READING

The Only Three Steps You Need to Find Money and Happiness

I was asked to give a speech at the San Francisco State business fraternity last week. I’ve done it before, and since I happened to be in the Bay Area at the time, I was happy to oblige again.

However, I knew that my talk this time around had to be different. My last speaking engagement with the fraternity happened about two years ago when I’d just started my first company – which failed. Anyways, at the time I didn’t know it would fail, and I was pretty full of myself. Thought I was pretty hot shit.

I gave the students a bunch of fluff and bloviated about “dressing for the job you want” and other real gems like that. I’m sure they got some value out of it, but it wasn’t a valuable talk. I knew that this time had to be different.

What can I give these students that’ll help them post college?→ CONTINUE READING

How to Overcome Your Never-Ending Cycle of Depression

Depression is a heavy word. It’s easy to trivialize just how debilitating it can be for someone. Depression is a clinical condition, and I don’t mean to offend those who face dark thought-loops that can end in disaster.

But everyone feels some level of depression. It might not be maxed out at 10, but each one of us has a range. Some days we’re happy, and other days we’re a bit dejected and despondent. On those days, I think it’s fair to say that we’re depressed. Or at least having a depressing day, if nothing else.

It’s normal. In fact, not feeling depressed from time to time is extremely abnormal. So, if you’ve ever felt depressed in life, rejoice, because you’re a human and these things happen.

But it’s important to become aware of the fact that you’ll face down days. Times when you feel as if nothing’s going (or ever will go) right.→ CONTINUE READING

You’ve Been Lying to Yourself About Your Future

One of my favorite TV quotes – gasp, I watch mindless television! – is from How I Met Your Mother.

Main characters Ted and Marshall, when faced with an insurmountable problem, such as when the kitchen sink is clogged, often say to each other, “This seems like a problem for future Ted and Marshall.”

Cue the laugh track and the two buddies continue to play video games until the show cuts to the next scene, which invariably plays out the repercussions of not dealing with the problem head-on.

But who cares? It’s a sitcom, and we want the characters to put themselves in situations with hilarious consequences.

However, this little comedy quip, while funny, trivializes life. It’s a microcosm of the human desire to mortgage the future on the present. That is, to take the path of least resistance and put off the pain ’til tomorrow.

Your Future is a Compound Effect

The pain could be anything, really.→ CONTINUE READING

The Four Meanings of Wealth

I’m excited to announce that my ebook on personal finance, The New Meaning of Rich, has been revised and updated! In fact, I’m so stoked on the new(ish) book that I’m making it free for the next five days, starting on Tuesday, Nov. 1, 2016.

To give you a taste, the following article is a syndicated post written by yours truly on the Pick The Brain platform. It discusses the main principle in the ebook. 

“Our souls are not hungry for fame, comfort, wealth, or power. Our souls are hungry for meaning, for the sense that we have figured out how to live, so that our lives matter so the world will at least be a little bit different for our having passed through it.” – Rabbi Harold Kushner

We live in a world where the true meaning of wealth has been lost.

In years past, a dream of riches was synonymous to Charlie Sheen’s character in Wall Street.→ CONTINUE READING

Balance Your Future Goals With Your Current Happiness

Call it a post-music festival tailspin, but I want to go back to Austin City Limits (ACL).

But then again, I actually don’t.

For those who aren’t familiar, ACL is a three-day music festival held at Zilker Park in Austin, Texas, similar to a Coachella or Bonnaroo. Bands play from noon ’til 10pm, and people bounce around from stage-to-stage, sipping beers while trying to stay out of the heat.

It’s a great weekend if you’ve never been to one. Austin is an amazing city, the music was great, and I had the pleasure of hanging with 10 of my closest friends.

It’s anything a guy could want. It’s an experience you work for, literally.

But then the weekend ends, and after three sleepless nights and early mornings, it’s all your body – and mind – can handle.

And, of course, in that moment, when you want nothing more than to recover in bed, you’re thrust back into the workweek on Monday without the support of good people and good times.→ CONTINUE READING