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How to Quantify the True Success of Your Life

What is a successful life? What gives your life the most fulfillment?

Answering these questions forces you to identify key outcomes and set goals to attain these outcomes. What does your life look like if you’re living it to your fullest?

The answers – as well as the associated outcomes and goals – are different for each of us. However, one thing remains the same for all. Goals need to be S.M.A.R.T. (specific, measurable, achievable, realistic, and time-bound). In essence, a good goal is one that’s quantifiable.

And just like a goal, your current life needs to be equally quantifiable. Through the measurement of your present, you’re able to better understand yourself and where you need to focus your goals. It helps you identify areas of your life that need improvement. This is key. You can’t live your ideal life and set effective goals if you don’t understand how to get better.CONTINUE READING

The Most Effective Tools for Life Automation

Life is made up of component parts. Specifically, your life is comprised of eight specific areas, known to as your “areas of focus.” The eight areas of your life are: relationship, time, financial, career, physical, mental, spiritual, and emotional.

These eight areas are all interconnected. Forget to nurture one and the others will suffer. If you lose focus on your physical health, for example, it harms your mental and emotional well-being. Placing too much attention on the financial area of your life causes your relationships lose value.

Sometimes it feels like we’re juggling eight balls without any hope of catching them all. This is normal. Still, it doesn’t give us an excuse to neglect any one area, which means we have to be smarter about our approach to our lives and its component parts.

Rather than relying on yourself, a life well lived is one that’s automated. People who live fulfilling lives do so in a systematic way.CONTINUE READING

Divergent Evolution: How an Evolutionary Advantage Can Change Us All

Divergent evolution is a complicated topic but an important one. Divergent evolution shows us how an evolutionary advantage – or more precisely, a series of random evolutionary advantages – can change the way humans think and live.

Understanding the divergent evolution of our species, including what evolutionary advantages caused the divergence of humans from the great apes, can tell us a lot about ourselves. If done correctly, we can use our understanding to make better and more informed decisions.

For example, most of us know that humans are social creatures. However, if we knew exactly why we’re social, we could maximize our sociability, thereby increasing our baseline level of happiness and decreasing our emotional distress. And that’s just one of a nearly infinite number of examples.

Clearly, understanding your nature – including the nature of the people around you – is itself a huge advantage. If you’re in business, think about your sales abilities if you could understand exactly why people act (and react) the way they do.→ CONTINUE READING

Fear of Time: The Root Cause of All Your Negative Emotions

Everyone has something – or some things – they’re afraid of. Typically, these fears are unique to the individual. However, every single one of us shares a common fear: the fear of time.

And no, I’m not talking about clock phobia or the fear of your blaring alarm at 6 am. Rather, I’m talking about the fear of depleting time. That is, the fear of death; the fear of our time running out.

In fact, I’m here to argue that literally every anxiety or stress you feel stems from a fear of lost time. This universal fear is running rampant throughout our society, affecting people in much deeper ways than they realize.

Don’t believe me? Well, I challenge you to read on. If you do, you’ll not only realize that each of your fears are intertwined, but you’ll know how to deal with the universal root cause, thus eliminated your negative emotions.→ CONTINUE READING

Your Life is a Pattern of Failure and Success

Syndicated post originally written for The Life OS, an interactive tool that helps with personal development

A recent study conducted by the University of Scranton found that 92 percent of people who set New Year’s goals fail by January 15th. This creates a chasm between where a person is now and where they want to be in the future. They can see the other side, but for whatever reason, they can’t seem to get there.

Picture yourself standing on the precipice of personal growth with two potential paths to take. One leads down a road you already know. It’s a cycle of repeated past actions that have led you to the present. The other is a road you’ve never traveled. It’s a path of new activities that send your future into the unknown.

One is fueled by recurring patterns of past failures and the other is driven by new patterns of future successes.CONTINUE READING

Five Ways to Measure the Quality of Your Life

How important is self-improvement to you? If you’re someone who believes a successful life is filled with continuous growth and learning, to you, self-improvement is important. And since you’re here reading this, I think it’s safe to assume that you, as well as I, view self-improvement as a priority.

Consistent improvement allows you to achieve your goals, find success, and realize happiness in your life. Self-improvement gives your life purpose and meaning and is always something to strive for. One thing I’ve noticed, however, is that when we focus on self-improvement, sometimes we end up feeling like our current life lacks quality. It’s almost as if we are so focused on future greatness that we become unhappy with our current situation.

We become so intent on being better tomorrow that we forget to be satisfied today.

As important as continuous self-improvement is, it’s always important to take a step back and measure the current quality of our lives.→ CONTINUE READING

What to Do When You Haven’t Found Your “Thing” in Life

So I turned 29 last week. Yes, some of you might think that sounds old, while others probably think of me as a baby.

I think I fall somewhere in between…Haven’t figured out how I feel about exiting my 20s yet.

But 30 is right around the corner, well, in 12 months, at least.

Time marches forward and there’s nothing we can do about it. We can’t buy back time, and we can’t stop it from depleting. It’s truly our only non-renewable resource.

Which got me thinking.

How can we maximize the time we have? How can we find our life’s purpose and ignite our passion? Does life even have a purpose?

Ultimately, how can we find “the thing” that creates true joy in our lives? I’m taking answers, please.

The Point of a Fulfilling Life

Depending on who you ask, you’ll be told that life is either pointless or has a very obvious point.→ CONTINUE READING

The Power of Your Personal Story Can Enhance Your Life

This is a syndicated post originally written on the Addicted2Success platform.

What’s in a story? Life lessons, perhaps, maybe even actionable insight and takeaways. How about jealousy? Maybe even a dash of disdain, anger, and feeling of inadequacy.

Ah, a feeling of inadequacy. Now there’s something we can all identify with. You see, we, as humans, have an innate character trait where we overvalue the success of other people, and simultaneously undervalue our own success.

Wow, she’s so amazing, I’ll never be able to compare, we often tell ourselves. I can’t believe he’s achieved so much at such a young age, we lament in silence.

But I’ll let you in on a little secret: They’re thinking the same thing about you. You see, it’s a classic case of the grass is always greener, but in this scenario, it’s not the greenery that you long for, but rather the chance to live someone else’s life.→ CONTINUE READING

You’ve Been Lying to Yourself About Your Future

One of my favorite TV quotes – gasp, I watch mindless television! – is from How I Met Your Mother.

Main characters Ted and Marshall, when faced with an insurmountable problem, such as when the kitchen sink is clogged, often say to each other, “This seems like a problem for future Ted and Marshall.”

Cue the laugh track and the two buddies continue to play video games until the show cuts to the next scene, which invariably plays out the repercussions of not dealing with the problem head-on.

But who cares? It’s a sitcom, and we want the characters to put themselves in situations with hilarious consequences.

However, this little comedy quip, while funny, trivializes life. It’s a microcosm of the human desire to mortgage the future on the present. That is, to take the path of least resistance and put off the pain ’til tomorrow.

Your Future is a Compound Effect

The pain could be anything, really.→ CONTINUE READING

You Should Always Sweat the Small Stuff

I’m sure you’ve been told not to sweat the small stuff.

Let it go, it isn’t a big deal. Stop worrying, it’ll be a footnote in your life.

So what should you do instead, sweat the huge things? Stress about the soul-crushing moments in life that make your palms clammy and your forehead hot?

Sounds terrible.

What if, instead of not sweating the small stuff, we decided to do just that? Worry about the little things in life. And what if I told you, contrary to popular belief, that if you focused on the tiny, minuscule, and microscopic events, you’ll actually become happier and more successful than you ever thought possible?

Well, that’s exactly what I’m telling you.

Small Stuff is Exactly What it Isn’t

The key to sweating the small stuff is momentum. Remember that Isaac Newton taught us an object at rest tends to stay at rest, and vice versa.→ CONTINUE READING

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