Posts in Self-Improvement

How to Use the Rational Choice Theory to Your Advantage

Rational choice theory is a principle that says that people act rationally in any given situation. The theory assumes that all humans are “rational actors” and that everyone freely chooses behaviors based on rational calculations that maximize utility. Most mainstream economic and even criminal ideologies are based on the rational choice theory, meaning that most of our policies and thinking in the areas of finance and public safety are based on the “fact” that all people act rationally.

However, there are many who don’t believe in rational choice theory, myself being one of them. And yet still, the theory drives much of our discourse and action regarding human behavior. Which is a problem, seeing as almost no human is rational. I’ve still yet to meet one. In this article, we discuss the rational choice theory, how its taken hold on society, and how we as individuals can use it to our competitive advantage.→ CONTINUE READING

10 Undeniably Successful Habits for Achievement in Life and Business

Everyone wants to be successful in one arena or another. A business owner and a stay at home mother might define “success” differently, but both want to be undeniably successful in the arena they choose. For this reason, such books have been written with titles like The 7 Habits of Highly Successful People and The Success Principles. Yet still, while everyone wants to be successful, few know how to actually go about doing it.

A large reason for this is that much of what’s out there in the self-help industry (previous book titles notwithstanding) is unactionable fluff, advice like “take a risk,” and, “believe in yourself.” This has never sat well with me. Through my own research, and after reading, speaking, and listening to anyone with a valuable opinion on the matter, I’ve been able to distill the top actionable habits that result in success – any type of success that you want.→ CONTINUE READING

Overcome Social Pressure, Break Social Norms, & Live Your Best Life

Social pressure is the direct influence of other people on your thoughts, desires, and actions. It’s the feeling that you should live your life according to other people’s narratives, following a path that’s considered “acceptable” by modern society. Social pressure confines us to a box, limiting the options of what’s considered a “successful life.” We’ve all been there, watching our friends enter the corporate workforce, get married, have children, and more, wondering all the while, “is this what I want for myself?”

But social pressure isn’t an external force exerted by society in an attempt to keep you confined to a path you ultimately don’t want. Rather, it’s internal pressure you put on yourself based on your subconscious need to fit in with those around you. This means that we have the power to break social norms and live the lives that make us truly happy.  In this article, we’ll discuss the ways in which you can overcome your feelings of social pressure in order to live your best life.→ CONTINUE READING

3 Steps to Stop Worrying About Things That May or May Not Happen

It’s human nature to worry. What’s on your mind right now? Chances are you’re worrying about something. Am I right? Sure I am. I know because I’m worrying about something right now, too. To worry is to be human. It’s inevitable; unavoidable.

So rejoice, in a sense. Your worries are simply an unavoidable and common reaction to events in the outside world and how you expect them to affect you. Now, I’m sure those words don’t alleviate your incessant anxiety, but I ask you, if you knew beyond all doubt that you were going to worry about something no matter what, would you keep falling down the same negative thought loops, worrying over and over again about things that typically never end up happening, anyway?

Rather than telling yourself that all your anxiety will dissipate as soon as you overcome the thing you’re worrying about, understand that worry is something you have to live with and work to become content with you current situation.→ CONTINUE READING

How to Stop Being Self Conscious & Make Self Consciousness a Strength

It’s funny that the act of being self conscious is considered a bad thing. “Stop being self conscious,” people say, as if to chastise us for being overly self aware. “Why am I acting so self conscious?” we ask ourselves, lamenting the fact we care too much about what other people think.

But couldn’t self consciousness be a good thing? Rather than thinking that you need to stop being self conscious, can you turn your self consciousness into a positive? If you think about it, no one should be afraid of feeling self conscious. Self consciousness is synonymous with self-awareness and should be something we strive to attain, not something we shy away from.

It’s time we flipped the idea of self consciousness on its head. We need to stop being self conscious in the modern sense and start being more self conscious in the traditional sense. If we can, we can make the act of being self conscious an advantage, rather than the deficiency it’s considered currently.→ CONTINUE READING

Rich vs Wealthy: The Key to Building Wealth The Right Way

Everyone says they want to be rich. However, what people really mean is that they want to be wealthy, they just don’t know it. You see, there’s a difference in being rich vs wealthy, and choosing one over the other matters.

The key to building wealth isn’t a desire to become rich. In fact, it’s quite the opposite. Because while “big ballers” talk about being filthy rich and blowing cash, smart people are quietly building sustainable wealth in the background. This is due to the fact that true wealth is created using three distinct strategies. In this article, we discuss how to build wealth the right way, including a breakdown of what it means to be wealthy vs rich, and why it matters.

How to Build Wealth the Right Way

Rich people spend money on material possessions. Wealthy people spend money on assets that generate more money. In a sense, rich people work so they can blow their money while wealthy people have their money work for them.→ CONTINUE READING

How to Focus on the Art of Fulfillment Over the Science of Achievement

Nearly everyone knows about the work of Tony Robbins. One of the most important things he teaches is the idea of “creating a breakthrough.” To Robbins, a breakthrough is anything that gets you closer to your ultimate goals and also helps you live a life of fulfillment.

It’s a two-parter. A breakthrough can be defined as goal achievement, sure. But if the goal achievement isn’t coupled with greater fulfillment, the goal wasn’t a breakthrough after all.

According to Tony Robbins, anyone can have a breakthrough if they consistently answer the following three questions:

  1. What do you really want?
  2. What’s preventing you from having it?
  3. How do you change your life now?

Each of these questions is extremely important in their own right. However, our Robbins-taught coaches know that one of the hardest things a person can do is to figure out what they really want. If you don’t know what you want out of your life, if you don’t know what’ll lead to greater fulfillment, then you’re lost before you even start.→ CONTINUE READING

How to Overcome Your Never Ending Depression in 8 Steps

Depression is a heavy word. It’s easy to trivialize just how debilitating it can be for someone. Depression is a clinical condition, and I don’t mean to offend those who face dark thought-loops that can end in disaster.

But everyone feels some level of depression. It might not be maxed out at 10, but each one of us has a range. Some days we’re happy, and other days we’re a bit dejected and despondent. On those days, I think it’s fair to say that we’re depressed. Or at least having a depressing day, if nothing else.

It’s normal. In fact, not feeling depressed from time to time is extremely abnormal. So, if you’ve ever felt depressed in life, rejoice, because you’re a human and these things happen. But it’s important to become aware of the fact that you’ll face down days. Times when you feel as if nothing’s going (or ever will go) right.→ CONTINUE READING

How to Get Comfortable Being Uncomfortable: A Guide on Uncomfortability

People typically want to avoid being uncomfortable. To many, achieving a “comfortable life” is the highest goal possible. However, contrary to popular belief, being uncomfortable is actually an integral part of goal achievement. It’s impossible to achieve a goal – even the goal of comfortability – without some level of uncomfortability. For this reason, it’s best to get comfortable being uncomfortable.

To help, this article discusses the reasons why uncomfortability is part of goal achievement, including steps to embrace and overcome your own uncomfortability. By the end, you should look forward to the feeling of uncomfortability and be able to use it to your advantage.

 

Below are the 5 steps needed to get comfortable being uncomfortable:

1. Set Goals You Actually Want to Achieve

The first step to overcoming your own uncomfortability is to set goals you actually want to achieve. The reason for this is because the only way you’ll be able to push through the pain to earn the pleasure is if your desired pleasure is actually worth the pain.→ CONTINUE READING

Don’t Compare Yourself to Others & Why You Still Do It Anyway

We live in an interesting time. Social justice warriors have taken over our media channels. Tweets get scrutinized, Facebook posts are seen as gospel, and sound bites are taken out of context. We’ve all gone soft, to some extent. Now, I’m not saying that emotional vulnerability is a bad thing. On the contrary, I think being honest and congruent with yourself is mandatory.

But we’ve taken things a step too far. Today, equality and inclusion are at the extreme. Of course we want a more inclusive and equal society. Everyone deserves a chance to make something of themselves. But when comparative equality reigns supreme, we’ve all gone a little off our rocker.

Just ask the Soviet Union.

This is Why You’ll Always Compare Yourself to Others

Let’s conduct a thought experiment. How do you know if you’re successful? Seriously, try to answer the question.

For example, let’s suppose that your definition of “success” is a six-figure salary.→ CONTINUE READING